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How I Found My Sexual Identity as a Demisexual Domme

Published by Cherie Adele

Every person has a unique sexual identity. For many people, it can be challenging to figure out what exactly works for them. While there are labels for many kinds of sexual identities, it is not uncommon for people to explore and discover they may identify with more than one or none at all. I’ve always felt discomfort when it comes to the idea of random hookups. I associate that discomfort with being sexually molested at a young age and not wanting to share myself on an intimate level with just anyone. I grew up in the Bible Belt of the south in the States where I secretly made out with girls and pretended to be into boys, but those experiences were few and far between. I followed the expected rules for a “good Christian” family from the south, and I married into a heterosexual relationship where my husband later explained to me he needed to start hormone therapy. For 5 years, I experienced living in the shadows as a queer family, what it was like …

Where to Keep Your Sex Toys Safe and Out of Sight

Published by Cherie Adele

If you’re thinking about having sex with your partner, but aren’t sure where to keep your vibrator or other sex toys so other people do not accidentally stumble upon them, you’re not alone! There are lots of options that can help keep your bedroom safe and sound while still allowing you to enjoy the pleasure and intimacy that these toys provide Keep reading to find out where to hide your sex toys in plain sight so that your children or guests are very unlikely to find them! Safety FirstIt is very important to clean your toys after each use after they air dry and you store them in a safe place. When used on different body parts, sex toys can harbor bacterial infections, which can cause genital or urinary tract infections. Furthermore, if you are sharing your toys with a partner it is important that they be cleaned before they go anywhere near someone else’s privates. We highly recommend using a toy cleaner that is designed to clean away lubes and sanitize away any possible …

Why I Love Shibari: My First Time Trying Japanese Rope Bondage

Published by Emma

Having never tried Japanese rope bondage, I wasn’t sure what to expect when I asked someone whose profile I just stumbled across on joyclub. The only thing I knew, was that I wanted to try how it feels to be tied up. But beyond that, the exact technique was somewhat of a mystery. It was hard not to feel nervous, but after the first explanations from my rigger (the person who actually does the knotwork), I was hooked and couldn´t wait to be unable to move. What is Shibari? There are many kinds of rope bondage techniques, but shibari is by far one of my favorites. The word itself translates to “to tie” in Japanese, which makes sense considering that these knots were originally designed to bind captives together. Today, they are often used as an art form (the intricate patterns really take my breath away), but they still serve their original purpose as well; erotic-bondage fans use them regularly. While the term shibari is most often used for all bondages with ropes, there is …