All posts filed under: Kink

Don’t Buy a BDSM Starter Kit! Here’s Why…

Published by Cherie Adele

BDSM may seem intimidating at first, but it’s just like any other activity in life—the more you practice, the better you become! When you’re starting out, you might be tempted to buy one of those BDSM starter kits that are available on the market, but don’t waste your money! Why? Let me explain… A lot of the items in starter kits are not usefulSure, 18 items for less than 20 Euros may seem like a good idea, but we promise you should resist the urge to hit the “buy” button! We found that most of these kits have cheap costume-like items that aren’t useful at all. For example, a lot of starter kits come with floggers and paddles made out of faux leather or other materials that are not ideal for playing with. They are less likely to deliver the right amount of pain or hold up to being used over time. Plus, you may feel like you are saving money in the beginning, but we promise you will want to spend more money on …

5 Tips for Selecting the Perfect Strap-On and Cock

Published by Cherie Adele

Strap-ons are one of the most common sex toys in the world, and they’re popular with lots of different groups and people across many sexual identities and gender expressions. That said, not all strap-ons are created equal, so if you’re shopping for one (especially if it is your first one), keep these 5 tips in mind to make sure you get one that fits your needs perfectly! Size Does MatterWhen it comes to strap-ons, size does matter. While harnesses come in a wide range of sizes and widths, one thing that may not be obvious is how much flexibility there can be in sizing—but flexibility isn’t just for comfort. For example, a medium may fit fine on your hips but you want something that feels perfect around your waist. There are straps you can swap out so that they’re interchangeable and made to fit your body perfectly—giving you what feels like custom support every time. If you have an interest in strap-on play with anal or vaginal sex, make sure to get a thicker and …

Date Night: Make Your Picnic Kinky!

Published by Cherie Adele

How do you make date night special? It isn’t easy to come up with new and exciting ways to be romantic with your partner when you’ve been together for years or with a new partner who you want to impress. Even the best ideas can get stale fast. Here are some sexy and simple ideas on how to plan the perfect kinky picnic this summer!

How I Found My Sexual Identity as a Demisexual Domme

Published by Cherie Adele

Every person has a unique sexual identity. For many people, it can be challenging to figure out what exactly works for them. While there are labels for many kinds of sexual identities, it is not uncommon for people to explore and discover they may identify with more than one or none at all. I’ve always felt discomfort when it comes to the idea of random hookups. I associate that discomfort with being sexually molested at a young age and not wanting to share myself on an intimate level with just anyone. I grew up in the Bible Belt of the south in the States where I secretly made out with girls and pretended to be into boys, but those experiences were few and far between. I followed the expected rules for a “good Christian” family from the south, and I married into a heterosexual relationship where my husband later explained to me he needed to start hormone therapy. For 5 years, I experienced living in the shadows as a queer family, what it was like …

Where to Keep Your Sex Toys Safe and Out of Sight

Published by Cherie Adele

If you’re thinking about having sex with your partner, but aren’t sure where to keep your vibrator or other sex toys so other people do not accidentally stumble upon them, you’re not alone! There are lots of options that can help keep your bedroom safe and sound while still allowing you to enjoy the pleasure and intimacy that these toys provide Keep reading to find out where to hide your sex toys in plain sight so that your children or guests are very unlikely to find them! Safety FirstIt is very important to clean your toys after each use after they air dry and you store them in a safe place. When used on different body parts, sex toys can harbor bacterial infections, which can cause genital or urinary tract infections. Furthermore, if you are sharing your toys with a partner it is important that they be cleaned before they go anywhere near someone else’s privates. We highly recommend using a toy cleaner that is designed to clean away lubes and sanitize away any possible …

Why I Love Shibari: My First Time Trying Japanese Rope Bondage

Published by Freyja

Having never tried Japanese rope bondage, I wasn’t sure what to expect when I asked someone whose profile I just stumbled across on joyclub. The only thing I knew, was that I wanted to try how it feels to be tied up. But beyond that, the exact technique was somewhat of a mystery. It was hard not to feel nervous, but after the first explanations from my rigger (the person who actually does the knotwork), I was hooked and couldn´t wait to be unable to move. What is Shibari? There are many kinds of rope bondage techniques, but shibari is by far one of my favorites. The word itself translates to “to tie” in Japanese, which makes sense considering that these knots were originally designed to bind captives together. Today, they are often used as an art form (the intricate patterns really take my breath away), but they still serve their original purpose as well; erotic-bondage fans use them regularly. While the term shibari is most often used for all bondages with ropes, there is …