Slut-shaming has been going on for way too long in our society, and it’s time to put an end to it once and for all. Slut has become such a loaded word. It’s often used to shame women for their sexual behavior as if there’s something wrong with enjoying sex, but it has also become a negative slur used towards and among people in the LBGTQ community.
Let’s face it, society has changed over the last century and more and more people are starting to change not only the way they think about sex and sexuality—but also we are seeing more and more people openly living their lives as the gender they identify with rather than the genitalia they were born with. Sadly, slut-shaming exists even in the LBGTQ community.
We created the Rebel Sluts after many long talks about polyamory, sexuality, and discussions of amazing books like “The Ethical Slut” and “Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive“. One of the biggest topics we continuously revisited was the topic of the word slut and how we wanted to embrace everyone, including ourselves, for the bravery it takes to live their best lives without hiding who they are from the world because they want to avoid internet trolls or people in their day-to-day lives who seem to enjoy pushing others down for being who they are, how they dress, their professions, or even for things they cannot control—like being raped.
The truth is, there’s nothing wrong with being sexually active with more than just one or two people in a lifetime, dressing in sexy clothes, having an abortion, or being a sex worker. Just like it is okay to decide to have only a few lovers and dress prim and proper—it is okay for someone to decide to do just the opposite of that!
Let’s tackle slut-shaming!
Sut-shaming is something that needs to be addressed. It starts with each and every one of us. We need to be more accepting of people, no matter their sexual preferences or level of promiscuity. It’s time to stop the slut-shaming! And it’s beyond time start embracing people who own their sexuality, how they choose to dress, or what they choose to do as a profession.
Some of the most important “words of wisdom” I took with me from my very religious Southen Baptist father: “If you don’t have anything nice to say; don’t say anything at all”. Ironically enough, he did not always apply to rule—especially with the LBGTQ community that I very much belong to. This left me very self-conscious about how open I was about being a queer mother in a polyamorous relationship with two transgender partners and how much skin I show off in public.
The truth is, it shouldn’t be that way. It really is the simplest thing to apply folks! Someone’s sexuality, profession, and appearance should absolutely not be a concern of anyone’s negative and degrading slurs. If you don’t like it, keep it to yourself! As a whole, the world is FULL of diversity and we are not always going to agree—but we can keep our opinions to ourselves without spreading hatred around. For fucks sake, there is plenty of hatred in the world and we desperately need more love and compassion for our fellow humans.
Monogamous, polyamorous, asexual, queer, gay, bisexual, transexual, intersexual, pansexual, demisexual, sex worker, swinger, promiscuous, straight-and-narrow… and the list goes on and on… Everyone has a right to be who they are as long as they are not harming children, murdering other humans, or engaging in non-consensual sexual behaviors. Let’s stop the madness of judging others to feel better about ourselves, and leave people to live, love, and fuck responsibly!
Cherie is a stray children's librarian turned rogue.
Now she spends her days writing and exploring sex-positive, queer, and kink topics with her girlfriend.
You might find her covered in paint, laughing, or dancing in the rain.
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