All posts tagged: BDSM

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Everything You Need to Know About BDSM (But Were Too Afraid to Ask)

Published by Freyja

If you have ever been curious about BDSM, you are not alone. Studies suggest that up to 70 percent of adults have fantasized about some form of power exchange or kink, even if they have never acted on it. Yet most people who want to explore this territory do not know where to start. They have questions that feel too awkward to ask and assumptions that come mostly from movies, pornography, or rumors. This guide is here to change that. What follows is an honest, practical introduction to BDSM. Not the version that sells books or gets clicks. The real version. What BDSM Actually Means BDSM is an umbrella term that covers several related practices. B/D stands for Bondage and Discipline. D/s stands for Dominance and Submission. S/M stands for Sadism and Masochism. Together, they describe a range of consensual activities that involve power exchange, sensation, or both. The key word here is consensual. BDSM is not about coercion, abuse, or harm. It is about adults choosing to explore dynamics, sensations, or roles in a …

4 Tips for Loving Your Body and Building Self-Esteem

Published by Cherie Adele

Everyone has insecurities. It’s one of the unfortunate facts of life that we all have to deal with to some degree. Maybe you feel too fat or skinny, too tall or short, too hairy or not enough hair, too feminine or masculine, your butt is too big or too small, your boobs are too small or not perky enough—maybe you have scars, stretch marks, cellulite, or a physical disability. We promise you are not alone. Insecurities can be especially hard to deal with when it comes to feeling confident in the BDSM world where we typically engage in raw and vulnerable moments with minimal to no clothing on—especially when we are in public or sharing photos online. Here are four steps to get you started towards greater self-love and acceptance when it comes to enjoying the kink scene and feeling confident in going out and enjoying yourself to the fullest. Avoid comparingIf you want to feel more attractive, try not to compare yourself to others. It can be really tempting when you see someone with …

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Guide to Kink Rituals

Published by Cherie Adele

If you’re interested in practicing BDSM but aren’t sure where to start, or if you are more experienced and looking for fresh ideas, here are some rituals that you can use as inspiration to create your own rituals that are unique to you and your partner(s).

Date Night: Make Your Picnic Kinky!

Published by Cherie Adele

How do you make date night special? It isn’t easy to come up with new and exciting ways to be romantic with your partner when you’ve been together for years or with a new partner who you want to impress. Even the best ideas can get stale fast. Here are some sexy and simple ideas on how to plan the perfect kinky picnic this summer!

How I Found My Sexual Identity as a Demisexual Domme

Published by Cherie Adele

Every person has a unique sexual identity. For many people, it can be challenging to figure out what exactly works for them. While there are labels for many kinds of sexual identities, it is not uncommon for people to explore and discover they may identify with more than one or none at all. I’ve always felt discomfort when it comes to the idea of random hookups. I associate that discomfort with being sexually molested at a young age and not wanting to share myself on an intimate level with just anyone. I grew up in the Bible Belt of the south in the States where I secretly made out with girls and pretended to be into boys, but those experiences were few and far between. I followed the expected rules for a “good Christian” family from the south, and I married into a heterosexual relationship where my husband later explained to me he needed to start hormone therapy. For 5 years, I experienced living in the shadows as a queer family, what it was like …