You can fake confidence at a dinner party. You can fake interest in a meeting. But in the bedroom, the mask slips. How you attach is how you fuck. There is a moment in intimacy where the social script dissolves. The lights go down. The clothes come off. Suddenly, you are not the competent professional. You are not the witty friend or the composed partner. You are a nervous system reacting to another nervous system. This is where attachment theory stops being a concept and starts being a physical reality. The patterns you learned in childhood to get your needs met don’t disappear when you become an adult. Instead, they just migrate to the bedroom. They dictate how you ask for pleasure, how you handle rejection, and how you survive the vulnerability of being seen. You might wonder why you shut down when things get too close. Or why you feel a spike of panic when a partner pulls away. You aren’t broken. You are repeating a survival strategy. The Anxious Performer: “Am I Enough?” …